Why being single isn’t so bad after all?
We are all familiar in witnessing a couple cuddling, holding hands, smooching in public parks and all we might think, in inference, is how sweet and romantic they are. Some of our friends might be in a relationship too and they share to us a brief story of their experiences with their partner and how well they enjoy their partner’s company. We might also be familiar about the memes and inane depictions we see on social media regarding on being in a relationship compared to being single. We might often see pictures of both heterosexual and homosexual couples, posted in public visibility, about how they get along and how they love each other so much. We see it at first as a public display of affection but honestly there is a tingle of envy that lies somewhere inside of us.
Based on my own outlook in our social culture, there is an obscure divide between those who are in the relationship and those who are single (not to mention those friends who abandoned their friends just to have an intimate concentration in their new relationship); we think that to be in a relationship status is heavenly, glamorous, magical and it feels to be connected day by day and that in single life status we apt to feel miserable, pitiable, alone, unromantic of some sort and sometimes we likens it to being ugly which then causes insecurity, feeble signs of paranoia on growing old solo and sudden distress on our appearance.
Oh, no, no, no. Fear and fuss not. To be single is not entirely dismal but, in the other way around, even beneficial and favorable if we look at a certain perspective.
Let reason guide you with some of these opinions.
“The best guarantor of ending up in a good relationship is the capacity to be alone.”
-Alain de Botton
“Is it possible, finally, for one human being to achieve perfect nuderstanding of another? We can invest enormous time and energy in serious efforts to know another person, but in the end, how close are we able to come to that person’s essence? We convince ourselves that we know the other person well, but do we really know anything important about anyone?”
The internal pressure building up drives us to find, in rush, the perfect, charming and elusive creature called the “Right One”. In the course of our modern world of social media, smart phones, computers, Wi-Fi, etc. our world became much smaller and our scope to peoples of the other side of the world has become utterly unlimited so we have set a sail on a modest venture to look for the one we are after; but in our determined stride of finding the “Right One” we meet of course the “Wrong One” and if you rush even more you can encounter a lot of heartaches and even end up marrying the “Wrong One”.
But if I am not so bold to ask myself, why am I not suggesting that it is like “more entries you send, more chances of winning” or in these case more chances of finding the “Right One”? If you are so keen on having many experiences why not; but is it really worth the cost? I leave the answers to you.
We should not be pushed to be in a relationship out of fear or shame of being alone later in life but in the essence that we love the person we are in a relationship no matter how long we wait rather than we are coerced to be into one.
For it is intrinsic to desire a partner, it must feel claustrophobic to be alone but you’re not alone actually. There are millions of unmarried people in the world clamoring and searching to find themselves from others and that won’t be a problem. Let us imagine and think that a genuine and special person as you are is worth finding painstakingly in the multitude. Yet of course, if we ignore the perils and troubles of the people who are in a relationship we might end up breathing the misery also.
The bottom line is we should not rush so much in being in a relationship or rush so much on choosing to be single. There are of course disadvantages on both statuses. Loneliness in the second whilst irritation, edginess, suffocation and disappointment in the first. To tell the truth, there will always be problems along the way whichever we select. However, if you’re not prepared to be in a relationship psychologically and emotionally it would be a bit much better to put your wager on the singles’ policy.
Theme Painting: “Alone in The Fog” – By Leonid Afremov
*This piece of essay was inspired by Alain de Botton and The School of Life and, in addition, the incessant inferiority sensation that teenage girls and boys feel on their current status. The author wishes to advise that you are not at the disadvantage all in all. The author also wishes to thank the people who responded as he asked vis-à-vis what it feels to be single or what are the reasons that they are single. Credits and Praises are on you.
*The words written above are merely opinions of the author or the product of his research and inquiry regarding the goodness and benefits it may occur on being single. If the words may be in somewhat displeasing to the reader, be reminded that article wishes to inform and comment in the most inoffensive possible way rather than hurt. Nonetheless, positive and negative comments are welcomed as the reader is free to commend or challenge the opinions and details above.
*Research and other search materials have a huge credit amount to the following and to learn more about the topic you can click the links below:
Reasons to remain single https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=350qUmbcAZU
Loving and being loved https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NhyfBi-Ad4c
How Romanticism ruined Love https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jltM5qYn25w&index=10&list=PLwxNMb28XmpcEwc0qydf2jSszQFSht81E